Graduation is a time of celebration, but it can also be a bittersweet time as the graduates are moving to the next phase. How can DISC help make it more meaningful for you and the graduates?
For some, it's an exciting time knowing your graduate has accomplished something big and is about to embark on a new and grand adventure. Parents may also feel a sense of achievement and parental pride as you send off your child to their next phase in life! Still, for others, the anticipation and fear of not fully knowing what's to come can be daunting. How can we find the right words to congratulate and give motivation?
How DISC can help make your interactions more meaningful
We want to convey a message full of meaning, inspiration, and even reassurance. Grads receive a barrage of advice and congratulations in written and verbal form. If you want your thoughts and advice to be heard then consider who is on the receiving end of your message.
One thing DISC has taught me is what I may perceive as motivating and engaging is not always the same for the recipients of my message. So the next time you write that congratulations card or have an opportunity to congratulate them face-to-face, think about making that precious message even more so by crafting your congratulations to your high school or university grad with their DISC style in mind.
Congratulations that work better with D-styles
Your D-style grads want to be recognized for their achievements. Key in on their successes, but try (I did say "try") not to be overly emotional. Celebrate their accomplishments, but keep it short and simple. Look to the future and emphasize with a task-focused message, "You can do it!"
"Ditch the dream and be a doer, not a dreamer, whether or not you know what your ‘passion’ might be. The truth is, it doesn’t matter. You don’t have to know. You just have to keep moving forward. You just have to keep doing something, seizing the next opportunity, staying open to trying something new". ~Shonda Rhimes
Congratulations that work better with I-styles
There is no such thing as overusing superlatives on your I-style grad's accomplishments! You may have to rein in their enthusiasm - or not! Don't list detailed items they need to consider, but rather focus on the positives and things they will look forward to like friends, experiences, and successes!
"Now go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for you being here. Make good art". ~Neil Gaiman
Congratulations that work better with S-styles
Sincerity works best with your S-style grads. Focus more on the here and now because too much focus on the impending changes may challenge their sense of security and cause them to feel more anxious. You can lessen their anxiety by providing continued support and reassurance that you will be there for them every step of the way. Instead of focusing on the grand picture, try compartmentalizing the future into manageable steps.
"In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love". ~Mother Teresa
Congratulations that work better with C-styles
C-style grads want details and facts to help them through the transition. They may be more uncomfortable with a focus on feelings. Like the S-style, they prefer to stay with the proven and present, and are more apprehensive about the unknown. They don't crave recognition like the D-style and I-style, but they do want access to the information and steps needed to be successful. Lists and succinct advice may be well received by the C-style grad.
"Having the right mindset is critical to graduation no matter at what age you decide to take the leap. The mindset? You must acquire the right mindset that places you in the right frame of mind to make the right decisions, which will eventually lead to the right habits, eventually leading you down the right path as you grow beyond where you are right now". ~Mike Finley
There's no right way to convey engaging and meaningful messages to your graduates, but you can identify their behavioral styles to make sure it is more relevant and likely to be heard. Next time, try making a few adjustments in your spoken and written words, and you will likely see a more positive response!
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